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HELP FOR CHRISTMAS!!!!!!

rosehays88 started this conversation

I need help for christmas really bad. My husband has been out of work because of the economy and I can't work because we can't afford daycare for our 4 year old boy and 1 year old boy. They haven't had good christmas's for the past 2 years. We have been getting 4 presents from toys for tots and 3 stocking stuffers. But it isn't much and my boys cry when they only get 2 presents each. They get so upset and say santa doesn't love them anymore. It hurts me and my husband so much. So if someone could help us out we would be very very happy and my kids can keep believeing in Santa and know that Santa loves them. My address is:

Rose Hays

12911 Davista ave,

New Port Richey,Fl.

34654

God Bless You All. Merry Christmas. And thank you for help. I'm very hopeful and I never loose Faith.

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HEAVENS 8
I AM A MOTHER OF 2 GIRLS AGES 3 AND 11 WHO IS TRYING SO HARD TO MAKE ENDS MEET I NO LONGER RECEIVE AIDE I HAVE BEEN WORKING AN IN HOME CARE JOB FOR THREE YEARS AND PAY CHILD SU[PPORT THAT I DID NOT KNOW I OWE SO IT COMES DORECTLY OUT OF MY CHECK. I NEVER ASK FOR HELP BEFORE MY PAST LIFE EXPERIENCES HAD ME ALREADY SET UP FOR REJECTION SO I NEVER TRIED BUT MY GIRLS DESERVE A GOOD CHRISTMAS THIS YEAR DESPITE OF THEIR MISSING OUT.I WISH THIS YEAR THEY COULD HAVE A CHRISTMAS I ONLY DREAM TO GIVE THEM.AND ACTUALLY WISH ALL CHILDREN IN IF GOD IS WILLING HAVE A MERRY MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM OUR FAMILY TO ALL
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sweet_melody

Somehow I don't think 'Hello Rose' is necessary; she probably ran for the hills to lick her wounds in private.  She said she won't be back - I believe her.

This is the very first post that I'm reading as a new member of this site.  I'm shaking my head and wondering what it's really all about.  It's not difficult to understand why Rose felt insulted and judged.  This is a scary place.  Did I take a wrong turn and end up back in ...uh oh....High School?!!!????  

* Crawls into the attic for the 'tough skin' outfit - looks like I'm going to need it.  :P 

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needmoney2
 in response to rosehays88...   god help you
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Stop Dreaming Do It
 in response to rosehays88...   

Hello Rose,

I'm sorry you feel people here were rude to you, but I honestly don't feel that was the case.  

 

If you  read the way your post was worded (as if you were an outsider with no info to your personal details) and read the part that says your children  children cry when they "only" get 2 presents each and they feel that "Santa" doesn't love them, well to an outsider those comments could come across very materialistic and negative.  Especially to people who really want to help people who are in need. 

 

This is why people (me included) made comments about Santa and what perhaps was being communicated to your children at Christmas, especially since one child is so little. 

Your post also said your hubby can't find work because of the economy and you CANNOT work because you can't afford daycare.  Your statement could be construed as meaning that if you had daycare YOU would be able to work.

People here were only offering you some helpful suggestions that perhaps if your hubby watched the kids then you'd be able to get that job you felt you could do if you had daycare.

People (including me) were only commenting based on the wording and tone of your post. It had nothing to do with us needing in-depth family details.

There are a lot of very kind, generous and helpful people on this site. However, if people miscommunicate verbally when talking face to face, imagine how much more difficult it can be when reading an email and not being able to hear the tone or the person. 

Hopefully this makes more sense to you and you can understand why you received some of the comments you received.

-Theresa 

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rosehays88
 in response to Stop Dreaming Do It...   Well thanks all for the kick in the face. Why do people have to be so mean. I'm sorry for even coming and trying this website that advertises quotes saying people who help other people. In quote"Aidpage is a special place where people help each other" I can to this site to ask for help and I just got spit on. How can people sit here and act like We are such bad people (my husband & I) when there are people out there that are worse. And no1 has the right to say anything bout our parenting skills because NO ONE knows what we have gone through. And if I want to leave details out I can because some things are personal and shouldn't be shared with the whole world. If you don't want to help someone then don't sit there and write offensive and cruel posts. I think that is just plain rude. I will never be on this site again because this was my first time and so far everybody has been rude. And if you really wanna know about a place to live we live with his Grandmother and I feel very ashamed of it. She owns the house so she doesn't pay rent. And she gets SSI which i feel horrible about using her money she only get 400 dollars a month and that doesnt last long with cable phone and all the rest of the bills. There my buisness out to every1 which it's NO ONE's buisness in the first place. And we don't instilled bad stuff in our children we only try to do the best we can in raising them in such a CRUEL world. This is exactly why I never ask for help from ANYONE! I will never post on this site again.
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Stop Dreaming Do It

Hello,

First, I think you're leaving out a few details. If neither you or your husband are working I'm left to wonder how you're putting roof over your heads? 

If you haven't already done so, my first priority would be to get food, housing, and clothing before worrying about "toys from Santa."  I suggest you apply for TANF (Temporary Aid For Needy Families formerly known as AFDC).  I don't know what city and state you're in, but you can Google TANF for your state to find out how to apply for this aide.

As for your children "not feeling" loved by Santa, that's a bit shocking coming from a 4 yr old and 1 yr old.  Neither is old enough to be in school and influenced by "strangers" so what exactly have you both as parents been instilling in these children?

Christmas, shocking as it might sound was NOT started as way for retailers to line their pockets.  Christmas is a time to be THANKFUL for important things like: Your health, and each other. 

Perhaps you should remind your children, if they REALLY are feeling "unloved" that they have two parents who love them very much, that "Santa" does love them because right now while Mommy and Daddy aren't working and have no money coming in He "Santa Claus" (if you want to go that route) has provided a roof over EVERYONE's head, food in their tummys and still managed to provided several toys and stocking stuffers. 

You have to talk to children in simple language. Explain that some little children sleep in the street and have no parents, so they (your children) are VERY fortunate. Also remind them that Santa is about celebrating and appreciating what we have not just about what we "can get." 

Maybe this would be a good Christmas to go volunteer at a homeless shelter as a family to show your children, especiially the 4 yr old how very lucky and blessed they are to have a family that loves them and not be so dependent on material things.

 

 

 

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Anonymous

While I do agree that hubby should watch the kids while you are working and he is still looking for a job. I have to disagree with the whole santa thing.

If your children place so much value on gifts from santa and how much he loves them - what does that say about you and your husband as parents? What values have you, as parents, instilled in your children that they are so concerned about how a fictional character treats them? 

I think you need to re-evaluate your values and morals for you and your children. 

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bonniesmall

 During the holidays it seems to never fail we all get to experience a huge amount of stress. I think the best solution is to have your husband watch your children while you go work, this way you dont have to pay for daycare. Also there is government grants you can apply for that you dont have to pay back. This would be a big help I'm sure. If you need any information on this please e-mail me and I will be more than happy to show you how to do this.I hope your family has a safe and happy holiday!

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Anonymous

Since your husband is out of work, he can watch your childern while you get a job, any job would be better then no money..right?  As someone who has raised a son on her own for 19 years, I cant believe your boys would cry at getting two gifts each, and say Santa doesnt love them? My son and I have gone without for years, and there was never a time when he asked me why only two gifts!!!! Something is wrong with picture.  You should not be asking for help, but rather, being thankful for what you are able to do for your childern, and teach them to be thankful as well.

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